FAQs
I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak and lack their own mental fortitude?
That’s the old school way of looking at life, to be a human doer and just push through things. Ask yourself, have you ever hired an CPA, Lawyer, Physical Trainer, or an MD? If you have that’s because you want to improve. Therapy is the same thing, we all need guidance in an area where we are not experts. You could read self help books, and talk to your friends, workout everday, and practice yoga. I sure did, and it helped, but not long term. These are short term fixes, and that’s part of our Western Culture. Most of us would rather have a glass of wine or beer, turn on Netflix, and call it a day. It’s so much easier and familiar and you don’t have to be vulnerable. What a horrible word, the V word!
Were you taught about the mind, emotions, nervous system, behaviors and communication while you were at school? Did you miss that class? That’s because we aren’t taught the most important part of ourselves!
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication can be effective for some people, but the irony here is you are not relying on yourself to cope with circumstances. Some people do need medications and I’m 100% supportive, especially if someone has bipolar or schizophrenia. However, after working with the severely mentally ill for many years, I’ve found the answer is not medication by itself but am integrative approach of medication, evidenced based therapies, connections with others, community, and feeling like one is contributing to society. If there’s a medication that does that on it’s own, please let me know, I’d like some myself!
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Having an idea of what you would like to work on helps, and there’s going to be invitations to work on specfic issues that you bring up. I’m your guide but ultimately you have to choose what you’d like to change, improve on or face. There is a teamwork aspect to this type of therapy and you can rely on my guidance to find a path that fits your goals.
How long will it take?
Great question, it depends. Oh, I dislike hearing that response! It’s true, everyone is different and I like to say that if all goes well and we are meeting 1x a week for at least 90 minutes there’s a strong possibility of completing in 3 months. However, that depends on the severity of the symptoms and your commitment to daily practice. Many times if it’s family and individual issues, it can take as long as 6 months and if there is complex trauma and a home life that is unstable, it can take a year if clients and families are committed to the long term instead of quick fixes. Ultimately you and/or your family are being trained to be your own therapists, that way you leave with skills and methods for a lifetime.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication to at least 20 minutes a day of practice work will be crucial to your success.